Advice Goddess

I’m a 35-year-old woman. I’m living with my boyfriend who’s a freelance artist (talented but just getting started). We’ve been together for three years and I am paying for pretty much everything. I don’t feel resentful. I feel like we’re a team and eventually his career will take off. However, my parents keep saying it’s […]

I know humans are typically your subject, but this is a relationship question so I hope you’ll consider answering it. I have a new puppy (an 8-pound terrier mutt). I eventually want her to sleep in bed with me. However, she’s not toilet-trained yet, so I “crate” her at night in the laundry room (in […]

I’m a 32-year-old woman with a really intense job that I love. I work long hours every week, and I often work weekends, too – by choice. I don’t want kids but I’d love to have a relationship. I just worry that guys will want more of me time-wise and energy-wise than I can give […]

I’m a newly divorced woman trying some online dating sites. Because I read your column, I understand how men prioritize beauty. I’m an attractive woman but I often photograph terribly, and I’m thinking of spending some money and having a professional photographer shoot some pix in a studio. Would this be a good investment? I […]

My boyfriend unplugs my laptop when it’s charging and plugs the charger into his, despite knowing that I need my computer charged for work. This is actually part of a pattern – a general lack of consideration, from constantly being late to always leaving messes for me to clean up to knocking the shower door […]

I am a 32-year-old woman who has never been in a relationship with a man I’m actually attracted to. The men I’ve ended up with really pursued me, and they were all smart, funny and kind, so I thought it was shallow not to date them because I wasn’t that into their looks. Depressingly, each […]

I’ve been dating this girl for just over a month, and she never offers to pay for anything. I was okay with this in the beginning as I saw it as a courtship thing. I guess I wonder whether this points to problems down the road with her not being a real partner, pulling her […]

My boyfriend who dumped me says he wants to be friends (talk to me, see me sometimes), but I’m not ready for that because I’m still in love with him. A female co-worker said that if he can be friends, he was never in love with me to begin with – that if he’d really […]

This annoying guy at my gym keeps asking me out. I’m always polite, saying, “Would love to, but sorry, I’m really busy.” And then I move to another part of the gym. I’d go at a different time, but unfortunately, he’s always there in the hours I can work out. What should I say so […]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for nine months. We are both in our late 20s and go out drinking a lot with our friends. I’ve noticed that when he’s drunk, he’ll be super affectionate and say really gushy things about me, our getting married, etc. Are his true feelings coming out, or is he just […]

My friend and I are debating why it is that men don’t want you when you want them, yet they’re all gung-ho when you aren’t interested. She believes that we just want what we can’t have. Could it be that simple?  – Pondering In looking for love, a number of people confuse “the chase” with […]