I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year. We were best friends and talked about everything – what our kids would be like, projects we’d do together, magical worlds, and even other people we found attractive. Then, on his computer, I accidentally clicked on what I thought was just some porn video, but I recognized […]
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Madame ovary
My wife needs a medical test that will involve her being naked in unflattering positions in front of another person, possibly male. I know she won’t enjoy this and it certainly isn’t sexual, but I want her to request a female gynecologist. She says she’s embarrassed to do that, refuses to be controlled by me, […]
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Gratitude adjustment
My boyfriend of three months seems wonderful. He is attentive and tries hard to please me, even in small ways (like always making sure I get tea I like when we’re out). Soon after we started dating, a relative of mine died, and he made a real effort to check in on my well-being. He’s […]
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Hawaii five-no
Ten years ago, my friend and I met our husbands on the same night (they were friends who challenged us to a game of pool), and we both got married the same year. We all pledged to spend our 10th anniversary in Hawaii together, but my friend’s husband is making it difficult, saying no to […]
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Indignation wants to be free
What are your thoughts on gently dissuading a person from making a total fool of herself on Facebook? A woman I know had her husband leave her for the woman he was cheating on her with. She’s been venting about this almost daily on Facebook, in sometimes blistering detail, and I’m truly embarrassed for her. […]
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A beloved teacher, counselor and activist commemorated
One day while she was a professor at what was then Sangamon State University, Dr. Caryl Moy came upon a woman standing in front of a frosty window. The woman had cleared a space and was gazing out at the wintry scene. “Are you looking for somebody?” Caryl said. The woman turned. “Yes,” she said. […]
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Vroom with a view
I’m a 34-year-old woman, dating a 27-year-old guy for three months. We have a great time together, but he’s balking at making an official commitment, meaning he doesn’t want to call us boyfriend and girlfriend. He says he feels we have long-term potential and doesn’t want to date anyone else, but needs time to be […]
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A century of service
From the Women’s Suffrage March of 1913 to serving in Congress, the women of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc., have served both their communities and their nation. The group, formed in 1913 by 22 Howard University women dedicated to promoting academic excellence and providing assistance to people in need, has grown over the past 100 […]
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Rescue your resolutions
Here’s a simple step that you can take to get your goals back on track if you’ve found that they’ve been slipping recently. 1. Start over. Get up. Continue. People find that being “allowed” to start over is an amazing concept that saves them a lot of stress and heartache. But they want guidance, a […]
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Healthy and energized at 90
Lou Murphy has lived with fitness buffs her whole life. Her son, LaVearal Maxeiner, who is a fitness trainer, had encouraged her for years to start a fitness routine, and her late husband, Dave Murphy, was a college track athlete and Olympic hopeful. Despite the urging from the men in her life, Lou had always […]
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The importance of strength training
Move. It’s one of the simplest things that humans innately do on a day-to-day basis. So how come more than 70 percent of Americans are sedentary? We were made to be constantly moving, but there are many distractions that keep us from doing this. TV, video games, Facebook, cars and fast food joints have all […]
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This doctor prescribes fitness
Brian Moore of Springfield is not your typical doctor. Instead of relying solely on medicine, he believes in being physically fit, and teaching patients that fitness is key to health. At age 54, he is the father of two, co-chair of the Southern Illinois University School of Medicine pathology department and a doctor at Memorial […]
