Parents can smooth the way back to school by helping students know what to expect in advance and getting organized before school starts. This will be more challenging in 2020. Your attitude counts – big time.
Going back to school creates a powerful mix of emotions. This year, our youngest new students may actually have an advantage because they aren’t accustomed to a school routine yet. But for returning students who were pulled out of classrooms into quarantine last spring, school will look much different this fall. Navigating change isn’t fun, but many students will be back in the classroom for at least part of the school week. You can help.
Your message matters
If I were to summarize the sea of experts’ views into one common-sense approach, the message would be this: Be calm, positive and proactive. As in all things, you set the tone. Explain that schools are preparing for all children to be safe and well; that wearing masks and leaving space between people helps keep everyone healthy when we’re getting to know a new kind of virus; and that your family and the teachers are in it together – you will figure out what works best for everyone.
Then get ready. Make sure everyone in the family has a comfortable, breathable mask to wear and have everyone practice all-day wear and thorough handwashing at least once before school starts.
Get the lay of the land
Schools may not be offering summer tours this year, so take a look at the website together and be sure to read any procedural messages from the school and district. You can definitely locate the car and bus drop-off and pick-up locations and discuss plans for lunches. Discuss any provisions for remote learning and set up a useful, well-lit, dedicated workspace for each student in the house.
Supplies and packs
Find the school supply list from your child’s teacher and take a fun trip to the store together. Put any general items in one bag, such as boxes of tissue, pencils and looseleaf paper for teachers. For elementary-age students and older, set up a very basic binder/trapper. Students don’t need an entire ream of paper and a dozen pencils (I’ve seen it).
Keep the backpack size manageable. Experts I interviewed for a 2018 Illinois Times backpack article cautioned that carrying large, heavy backpacks creates musculoskeletal problems for children and youth even when worn properly with arms through both straps and the pack centered on the back. Instead, select a small backpack for a small child, and a medium backpack for everyone else. If your school still uses large, heavy textbooks, buy a used set online for home and sell or donate them next year.
It truly grieves me to say, clothes and shoes matter. If your child likes to make an alternative statement, affirm all reasonable and dress code-conscious choices. Otherwise, find something affordable that fits in with the crowd.
Schedules and sleeping
Families can run themselves ragged trying to help our kids build experiences, create positive peer groups and graduate with a standout resume. According to published research, such as the sleep data from The Washington Post, most children and youth need about twice as much sleep as they get. There are a lot of demands on families. Try, and don’t give up, to create a routine that supports ample sleep time on a predictable schedule, time to do the day’s homework and work on larger future assignments, stress-free family time and unstructured time to enjoy creativity, relaxation, imagination and quiet spaces. The whole family will enjoy the rewards of improved communication, focus, empathy and grades.
Make meals count, especially breakfast. A big bowl of sugary cereal or syrupy French toast sticks will put your child right to sleep during morning math. Sadly, this is usually the first thing kids reach for in the school breakfast line, so serve protein at home. Consider toast with nut butter, scrambled eggs or, for kids who don’t like traditional breakfast dishes, a baked potato with cheese, chicken strips or breakfast burrito. Even vegans can work out protein-rich breakfasts instead of sweets and will not miss that mid-morning sugar-crash headache a bit. Anything you can make the night before will help ensure breakfast success.
Our grandmothers said it, and it will always be true. Accentuate the positive. Be grateful. Affirm accomplishments and improvement, not just A’s and wins. Eliminate negative self-talk. Count your blessings aloud with each other. Cheer each other on. You’re in it together, so be the team for one another.
DiAnne Crown is the editor at Seasons of Parenting, a website of resources to encourage children and support families. Visit www.seasonsofparenting.com for more information.